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April 26, 2008

Why A Father Image is so IMPORTANT!


Parenting....About Teens


Fathering a teenager is an extremely important and complex experience. Teens have to learn to cope with their changing roles, moods, and body, and fathers have to learn how to manage and nurture the changing child.


Research shows that teenagers are more likely to reach their full potential when fathers are actively engaged as involved positive role models, guiding and supporting them on their journey from adolescence to adulthood.


Being a teenager isnt easy. At one moment, they are testing limits and experimenting with independence. The next, they are seeking closeness and reassurance from their parents that they are valued members of the family.


Teens can also experience great loneliness, and at the same time intense peer activity and pressure to expand personal relationships and develop positive self esteem.


Studies show that children with little or no contact with their fathers are more likely to drop out of school and become involved in drug and alcohol abuse; girls are more likely to become pregnant as teens and boys are more likely to become involved in crime and violence.


How To stay CONNECTED...


Show an interest in what they are doing- at school and out of school.


Do things with them-establish a regular routine- from helping with homework to watching and playing sports together, taking them to see a movie, going to a play, or a hike, or out to eat.


Be available and responsive when they want to talk about good, the bad. Or the sad. Don't say "in just a minute" or" not right now".Frequently ask your child about his life, and the lives of their friends. Know what fashions, music, television, and movies interest them. Foster their courage, integrity, leadership, curiousity, and concern. Be consistent, involved, aware and nurturing!
TODAY'S REMINDER

Be a proud parent, a friend, and a confidante.

Are U helping your KIDS?

Parents have a concrete responsibility with respect to the studies of their children.
There are many parents like me who are worried about the studies of their children only when they receive their grades from their school, or show interest only in the results of their studies without finding out why and how these came about. Some other parents get in touch with the professors only when their children flunk in the examinations. In fact most parents believe that the matter of their children's studies is the exclusive responsibilty of the professors. No its not. Because even in reputable school or institutions where the students are studious and intelligent, the parents, who may not have had the time nor the benefits of a college education, should play a vital role in their children's studies for the simple fact that the children cannot be entirely separated from school. The children spend almost the whole day in the classroom to learn and it would be senseless for the parents not to be directly involved in this all consuming activity. Most of the satisfactions, preoccupations, difficulties, interests and acquaintances of the children are acquired during their student life. That is why a child cannot be assessed without taking into account his behaviour in school. Decidedly, he cannot be understood and educated if his life as a student is not considered.
The parents who do not keep track of the studies of their children are missing many opportunities to know and understand them, or to render them assistance in many specific ways. This is precisely one of the accusations of adolescent children against their parents. "They are living in their own world and do not know our interests and problems," they claim.
Education does not come from a vacuum- it is acquired only through hard work.
The parents should realize that the scholastic work of their children at home and outside of it is aimed at developing many human virtues. If the children are taught to perform worthwhile tasks, they will become industrious, orderly, responsible and diligent. The parents are primarily responsible for their children's education. They are the first educators of their children.
The parents should complement the work of the professors from a different angle but with the same objectives. The preparation of the lessons is made at home precisely where the children need more help and guidance.
Their studies should be observed day by day to find out the difficulties being encountered, whether they have the necessary motivation to study, and whether they are making good use of their time. The children should be encouraged to have more interest, to be more constant and to improve their methods of study.
To wait for the arrival of the ratings of the children before showing any concern for their studies is highly inadvisable. Because we parents are no longer in any position to influence the attitudes of our children, nor will they understand the meaning of those grades. This practice of not following up our children's learning process, is an evidence that we are only interested in our kids who pass the examinations successfully and who obtaines a remarkable and excelllent grades. There is no appreciation for the efforts that went into them. Thus the task of encouraging the children to be more studious is more difficult. It is likely that our kids might develop negative attitudes especially when they find themselves misunderstood and misguided.To be worried only when our kids flunked is even worse. Besides committing the injustice of not appreciating what has been done well by them, there is also the negative relationship between the parents and the children, brought about by the bad grades, creating an atmosphere which is not at all favorable to the studying that has to be made at home.

I hope this info helps. Have a nice bonding day to u and your kids... Till next post!

TODAY'S REMINDER
"Maintain a CLEAN house"

Internet Cafe's Not allowed to places near School...

Here in Manila ...i guess not in every places in the country... they implemented a rule not allowing Internet Cafes to operate in places near school. Or they have a sort of like TIME that they wont allow students going inside these establishments... to discourage students from going to cafes on school hour.

I think this is good...as a lot of students are hooked on computer nowadays and their grades might be affected if they are spending most of their time on internet cafes. Spending their allowances there.... i knew some kids in the neighborhood who does things like that. Not only that they spend their allowances there but also had an ulcer for not eating on lunch hour, and their grades were badly affected coz they often cut classes.

These kids must be taught really hard how important for them to study. I dont have anything against computers, gaming, internet...but Im just worried about these kids. And imagine the money their parents spent for them each year. To think these kids are rich and can afford... but they dont like schooling at all.

So many kids on the street couldnt even afford to go even to public school and here they are the so callled rich kids.. spending their school time at cafes.

Some parents doesnt allow their kids at home to use the pc.... or limits the time of use....and its the reason these kids sneak up in school. Absent or cuts classes.

Anyway...this is also the reason why some key cities here in Manila has this ordinance ...and hopefully Internet Cafe owners will be responsible enough....not just mind only the money coming inside their pockets. I wonder if they have ordinances like these in another country.

TODAY'S REMINDER

Parents watch out.... they said PREVENTION is always better than CURE!


April 25, 2008

I didnt get enough Sleep last night...

Its so humid and HOT....sure an effect of GLOBAL WARMING... imagine all my windows are open...i wasnt worried about mosquitoe bites cuz my windows are screened. My son was with me in bed, i watched tv, tossed and turned, i am tempted to open the aircon...but i declined...its not an energy saving type...lolz! Wearing my most comfy clothes at nite...i made myself some MILO drink which actually helps me relax. I was dead tired last night but couldnt sleep at all... its like the opposite of what people expect when u are tired u shouldnt have a hard time sleeping right?? Finally around 2 i guess I made it.... and woke up around 9 am...yikes!Kutz was out of bed... i was all alone...

anyway my day today is pretty ok... chatted with some of my closest friends... oh yeah it rained a while back... bad for my business cuz I serve cold snax... yay!

TODAY'S REMINDER
i told u to not forget to close the tv when u are off to bed...

April 24, 2008

EARTH DAY ...


(I copied this from my other SITE... Yahoo is acting weird these days so I am planning to put some of my post there in here... suppose to be ...I should write in TAGALOG... so in short this ONE is for those who dont speak and understand what I am saying.... )

We are on a CRISIS. The signs are all there that if no one acts upon this problem OUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS will suffer from all our damages. Global Warming is a BIG Issue.
US and Australian government should listen too... I heard US initiated the studies and yet they are the ones who least supported the campaign against CLIMATE CHANGE together with Australia.WHY? Because majority of the industries of US and Australia will be affected should they decide to support/ sign the agreement on CLIMATE CHANGE. A lot of their industries causes greenhouse effect and their economy depends on it."I know your salary depends on it.... but there is another way.They should start initiating some changes with those industries that causes all these damages .
If you have watched the INCONVENIENT TRUTH.... you will realize how much damage this generation has on EARTH. And statistics shows a very disturbing result.
If u are a child...tell your parents not to destroy the EARTH. If you are a high ranking official... and your in the position...why not use your position to do what is right? Lets go hand in hand ....save this PLANET... We need GREAT LEADERS... we need people who cares...
Lets plant more trees- for every ten trees you planted...you'll sequester one vehicle that emits carbon dioxide.
Lets use appliances that has CFC or those that are environment friendly.
We have to find ways on how not to be dependent on fossil fuel...
I heard they are now manufacturing hybrid cars. Lets hope that there will be a lot of people like them...
Changing incandescent bulb to cfl.
These are but a few... If we would just take a little effort to observe whats going on around us.
Efforts have been made to block such MOVES to save the EARTH... because billions of money are at stake...but what these people doesnt realize is those money are nothing if the EARTH is GONE. ...
Thanks to the People who made the DOCUMENTARIES... I dont mind buying DVD's that i can proudly show my son to watch and learn ... its worth every cent...
http://www.climatecrisis.net/.

DEATH PENALTY for parents who neglects children!!!

So many street children , uneducated, malnourished, un -sheltered, sick and dying... no help is coming their way. Too bad. Its breaking my heart into million pieces whenever I see one.


And I'm telling you that each time I do see one, a part of me is furious to the parents of these kids. 


Why? Its because you didn't plan your family!!!... making children isn't a HOBBY... its a BIG responsibility that you will carry as a parent. If you can't support a big family... DON'T make ONE! Okay you are entitled to have a family so I suggest limit the numbers. Common sense dictates that while it feels good when you're in the act of baby making, you also need to understand that its a big responsibility! You don't just make one and leave everything  to chance. Neglecting our responsibility as a parent deserve some major punishment like death penalty!!! :P  like for example-  a child was seen in the street selling cigarettes instead of going to school, punish the parent at once! don't we have laws about it yet?

It's always the poor and the "uneducated"  who were  prone to abuse...because they can be talked to do things they didn't realize were wrong...

Not trying to belittle anyone here... but isn't it that the cause of hunger from within a home started on over populating the house and eventually the world? Producing off springs you don't even know if you would be able to feed? that's why we have snatchers, hookers,  drug addicts, these are the types of people being produced. People who has to go out and do bad things in the society in order to eat. To buy medicine for their sick loved ones. Children whom we weren't able to give utmost care, nourish and feed well, educate and clothe decently, these were the same children who will soon become the easy target of immoral jobs.Think about it...

















TODAYS REMINDER
Dont forget that after u use the pc....turn off the power supply and also those that are on standby mode... it cuts electricity cost and helps decrease use of fossil energy... now u know!

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