Parents have a concrete responsibility with respect to the studies of their children.
There are many parents like me who are worried about the studies of their children only when they receive their grades from their school, or show interest only in the results of their studies without finding out why and how these came about. Some other parents get in touch with the professors only when their children flunk in the examinations. In fact most parents believe that the matter of their children's studies is the exclusive responsibilty of the professors. No its not. Because even in reputable school or institutions where the students are studious and intelligent, the parents, who may not have had the time nor the benefits of a college education, should play a vital role in their children's studies for the simple fact that the children cannot be entirely separated from school. The children spend almost the whole day in the classroom to learn and it would be senseless for the parents not to be directly involved in this all consuming activity. Most of the satisfactions, preoccupations, difficulties, interests and acquaintances of the children are acquired during their student life. That is why a child cannot be assessed without taking into account his behaviour in school. Decidedly, he cannot be understood and educated if his life as a student is not considered.
The parents who do not keep track of the studies of their children are missing many opportunities to know and understand them, or to render them assistance in many specific ways. This is precisely one of the accusations of adolescent children against their parents. "They are living in their own world and do not know our interests and problems," they claim.
Education does not come from a vacuum- it is acquired only through hard work.
The parents should realize that the scholastic work of their children at home and outside of it is aimed at developing many human virtues. If the children are taught to perform worthwhile tasks, they will become industrious, orderly, responsible and diligent. The parents are primarily responsible for their children's education. They are the first educators of their children.
The parents should complement the work of the professors from a different angle but with the same objectives. The preparation of the lessons is made at home precisely where the children need more help and guidance.
Their studies should be observed day by day to find out the difficulties being encountered, whether they have the necessary motivation to study, and whether they are making good use of their time. The children should be encouraged to have more interest, to be more constant and to improve their methods of study.
To wait for the arrival of the ratings of the children before showing any concern for their studies is highly inadvisable. Because we parents are no longer in any position to influence the attitudes of our children, nor will they understand the meaning of those grades. This practice of not following up our children's learning process, is an evidence that we are only interested in our kids who pass the examinations successfully and who obtaines a remarkable and excelllent grades. There is no appreciation for the efforts that went into them. Thus the task of encouraging the children to be more studious is more difficult. It is likely that our kids might develop negative attitudes especially when they find themselves misunderstood and misguided.To be worried only when our kids flunked is even worse. Besides committing the injustice of not appreciating what has been done well by them, there is also the negative relationship between the parents and the children, brought about by the bad grades, creating an atmosphere which is not at all favorable to the studying that has to be made at home.
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